Earlier this week I described some of my thoughts about how Web 2.0 technologies could help us remove degrees of separation between people. In particular, social networking allows individuals to make some form of connection with each other without meeting in person. However, there are some realistic limits on how readily or deeply individuals will widen their social circles to include people they’ve never met in person.
My most recent post ended on a bit of a negative note, suggesting that new technologies really aren’t going to help us get directly to the person that we’d like to communicate with if they aren’t willing and able to reciprocate.
Now I’m going to try to bring things back up to a more positive note. I don’t think that social media and Web 2.0 are completely useless; if you’ve been reading this blog long enough, you’d know I’m a believer, although I stop short of “drinking the KoolAid”. At the same time, I think that many people are becoming more open to communicating with people from all locations and walks of life, particularly through social media.
So, how can we succeed in this environment?
I think there are a few things that we can do to try to get in closer contact with the people we’d like to talk to by combining some tried and true methods of networking with today’s newer technologies:
Just try
Bloggers almost always have a contact form or an E-Mail address that you can use to contact the blogger. In some cases, these are for show but there’s little intent behind them. It’s understandable that some people don’t have the time or energy to respond to every request for contact and information. At the same time, don’t let that deter you if you think you have a valid reason for getting in contact with someone.
In my experience, there’s one blogger who’s extremely responsive to communication requests, despite what you might think to the contrary. This is a very famous A list blogger and author who is well known for not allowing comments on his blog. But, try E-Mailing Seth Godin and you may be in for a surprise. It’s likely that he will respond to you as long as you are not obviously spamming him. I’ve traded several different E-Mails with him and it’s been cool.
I’ve also gotten in touch with other people using E-Mail. That’s worked. With some people, you may need to change the medium. Maybe a Twitter message or an IM will be better. We know that some people are receptive to phone calls. Heck, blog comments can work really well. Check all of the different media and try to find one that works. Just don’t be obsessive about it.
Persistence and marketing through good (no, great) work
The best way to market yourself is to do great work. It doesn’t matter what it is: blogging, articles, audio, video, photography… just be the best you can be at any given point in time. Then try harder and work smarter next time. And keep repeating so that your skills and experience grow.
If you’ve done something good, great, amazing, or remarkable, it gives you a way to introduce and market yourself. There are lots of other blogs that you can read that can give you ideas about how to create better. I’ve got some ideas on this blog as well. The point is that you’ve got to work on it. Create, analyze, get feedback, learn lessons, and create more. Build your material over time.
People love talking to other people who do great stuff.
Connection, recommendation, and introduction
I think that recommendation, referral, and intermediate connections are potentially the most powerful way to remove some of the degrees of separation. Social networks have grown tremendously in the Web 2.0 era. MySpace and Facebook, and other applications, have really captured the personal, non-work site of networking (although in some cases they do include pieces of your professional life, depending on your profession.) However, I think that LinkedIn has the potential to be the most powerful personal recommendation application out there.

There are three major reasons why I think LinkedIn is the winner in this space:
1) Connections: I find that the Connection functionality in LinkedIn is superior to anything Facebook has. Between that and the detailed work and personal experience that you can store in LinkedIn, you get a powerful “social graph” that allows you to see how you are connected to other people.
2) Recommendation: in the past we had references that we put on our paper resumes. These references were the people who would vouch for our character and our performance. LinkedIn allows us to store public recommendations (in public view!) that persist over time. Giving and receiving a recommendation is like exchanging social capital (the ability to communicate and work with other people).
3) Referral: by maintaining a trusted and respected social graph, you can refer strangers to other people with a sense of trust and integrity. LinkedIn provides that kind of referral service. It also provides an Introduction service (only available to paid users, alas) to help you out in a cold-call situation.
Facebook or MySpace might have bits and pieces of this functionality, but (to my knowledge) they haven’t put it together the way that LinkedIn has. LinkedIn’s connection and recommendation network gives it a strength similar to eBay Buyer/Seller reputation – it’s golden if you follow the rules, but if you abuse it, you’ll lose it.
LinkedIn might not be the ultimate social networking application, but it’s great at what it does.
So how does this help us remove degrees of separation?
It might not help with direction connections, at least not initially. However, through intelligent use of networking and social graph monitoring, you can find potential referrers that you never knew about before. These potential referrers may not be well known, but they may know a surprising large number of people. Some of these people are the “connectors” from Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point – they thrive on meeting and introducing different people. If you can get in contact and get their trust, they can help you get in touch with other valuable people. As these individuals become social media users, the ability to remove degrees of separation will only grow over time. You don’t even need to exclusively seek out connectors. You never know the value of any person who you might meet. The Golden Rule can go a long way in helping you make connections.
Some parting thoughts
As technology evolves to allow us to do more things faster and more easily, the importance of people skills and networking seems to become even more important. On the one hand, there are many more ways to contact an individual as we’ve evolved from type 0 to type 1 to type 2 communication methods. However, most people still have limits on their ability to build numerous relationships and to process data. That’s why, despite the limitations, it’s important to develop a broad-based group of contacts as well as to prove yourself to be trustworthy and talented.
This kind of strategic and tactical networking may seem manipulative or distasteful and that’s the way I used to look at it. To a large extent I still think it’s manipulative if the wrong (selfish, damaging, abusive) intent motivates interaction. However, if you keep reciprocity and respect as guidelines for conduct and look for the famous “win/win” situations, networking is a powerful tool which can do wonders when used correctly. I have a lot of respect for that and I’m no social butterfly!
These four posts have spent a lot of time discussing my thoughts and ideas on this topic. I don’t consider myself to be a social networking expert, but I have learned a few things that I thought were worth sharing. If they help you meet your personal goals and objectives, then that’s great!
And what do you think about these “six degrees of separation” thoughts and ideas? Why not share your thoughts in the blog comments section?