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It will NOT take me 13 MORE years to get published again!

Friday, February 22nd, 2008

Sample magazine cover Image by David Fraiz.

February 2008 brought me to a new personal milestone: I had an article published in an honest-to-goodness magazine. With pages. And paper!

My article, “Toastmasters in Rural Areas”, was published in Toastmaster magazine in their February 2008 issue (the downside is that the magazine is only available to Toastmasters members, but at least there are over 200,000 of us…)

It was a long road to get to this milestone, probably much longer than it needed to be. At the same time, there are a few valuable lessons from this experience for me to share with you.

Almost… but not quite

The last time that I came close to getting published in a magazine was in 1995. The periodical in question was a short-lived Canadian publication called Onset. I worked hard on that article (about career prospects in the telecommunications industry), only to have it pulled and dumped before the magazine went to press. I didn’t do much non-business writing for ten years following that. I have to admit I was rather crushed when I was told that the story wouldn’t run, especially at a time when I was looking at changing careers.

When you experience a disappointment like this, you tend to wonder whether one of two things happened:

  1. Did random circumstance screw up this opportunity?
  2. Was this event the result of destiny or planning by unseen forces?

It’s tempting to think that 2. was the reason why I didn’t get published in 1995. I could think “Gee, the stars and planets weren’t in proper alignment,” or “God didn’t want me to get published”, or “Maybe I broke the Law of Attraction somehow,” or…

But I highly doubt those were the reasons. It probably was a random collection of events that led me to where I was. Nonetheless, I didn’t push ahead any further with writing. It’s quite possible that I wasn’t ready at that moment, regardless of whether or not fate was involved.

Quitting… to do other important stuff

The main reason why I gave up on the writing dream was to focus on things like career and family. Quite honestly, it was the best thing that I could have done at the time, because that decision put me on the path to marriage, family, and career advancement. You tend to learn a heck of a lot about life by following this path.

So why am I messing around with writing again?

Put simply, things change.

Years of neglecting my creative side caused frustration and desire to build up to the point where I had to try again. It was time to resume climbing up Maslow’s hierarchy.  I started with fiction writing, but found that it wasn’t quite gelling for me. I blundered into user generated content sites like Helium and Triond and from there to social media to blogging and… well, we’ll see where this winds up.

Get a life (I mean hobby!)

This time around, my hobby led to my article. I joined Toastmasters in early 2005 as a way to get back in touch with my creative side. Since Toastmasters was very goal and acheivement oriented, it gave me some objectives to sink my teeth into. I earned the first two Toastmasters communication certification, became part of my club executive, and generally learned a lot about Toastmasters while meeting a number of great people. This experience gave me the raw material to create the article and, after a fair amount of work, it was published.

It did take nine months from start to finish, including one major rewrite, but the article did get published.

I’ll tell you, there’s nothing like seeing your first article in print. Some of you probably know what that’s like, but if you don’t… it’s like winning the best award ever. My heart lifted and I grinned like a fool for at least fifteen minutes (which is a LONG time for me).

Lessons learned

1. Subject matter experience is a huge advantage: I probably couldn’t have written that article without my Toastmasters experience. At the very least, it would have been much harder to research and write the article without being a member of Toastmasters. Writing about what you know is clearly a smart thing to do.

2. Membership has its rewards: Toastmasters membership gave me an automatic advantage over anyone who wasn’t a member. Membership automatically conveyed a certain amount of authority and credibility.

3. Find the right outlet: Toastmasters is very receptive to articles about Toastmasters! The article wouldn’t have worked for Rolling Stone, Wired, or Newsweek because Toastmasters doesn’t tend to have the mass appeal of politics, current events, technology, or pop culture.

4. It’s never too late to try: there’s no doubt that I did quit writing for many years. However, the dream never died. If anything, I’m a better writer today because of the knowledge and experience that I’ve gained in the past 13 years.

5. Don’t be afraid to try again: I never completely abandoned the idea of getting published, despite my previous failure and my “break”.

In conclusion

Generally speaking, I don’t recommend waiting 13 years to try something a second time. At the same time, don’t let the passage of time discourage you, no matter how long it seems. Just look at the people who successfully graduate from educational programs later in life! What about anyone who has the guts to try something new and different long past the time when common wisdom says it makes sense?

If there’s something that you want to do badly, but you’ve never had the courage to try, don’t let time scare you away. If you have the capability and the drive to pursue a milestone that you are theoretically capable of doing, then try it! Don’t worry about the consequences of failure; worry about the consequences of never trying.


Oh Canada – Unabashed Link Love

Thursday, February 21st, 2008

Just wanted to share some links to some great Canadian blogs that I’ve discovered during the past month or two:

Search Engine People (I got to meet Jeff Quipp this week; great guy!)

Itty Biz (starring Naomi Dunford writing about small business and working from home)

Men With Pens (James Chartrand and Harrison McLeod – excellent writing about writing)

Bow. James Bow. (discovered James some time ago, great writer and blogger)

They’re all writers and bloggers, eh? (I’m Canadian, I am allowed to write like that. You hoser.)

Edit:  you will find some amazing ideas for your blog from these folks.

Catch the brainwaves with Mr. BabyMan!

Thursday, February 21st, 2008

Catch the Brainwaves is our ongoing series of interviews with a variety of folks participating in blogging and social media. I ask them ten questions and they respond with their brilliant answers and insights! Today’s Q&A features a master of social media who really knows how to “Digg” his way to the top.

MB Digg icon Today we’re featuring Andrew Sorcini aka Mr. BabyMan of Digg and The Drill Down podcast as our guest.

Are you ready to catch his brainwaves, including:

The TRUE story behind his user name?

Then let’s begin!

1. I’m sure you’ve explained this one million times, but what’s the origin of your user name?
It’s actually a pet name given to me by my girlfriend at the time (who’s now my wife). It’s a reference to my arrested development and general refusal to grow up and act like a serious adult. I began to use it as a username (for lack of a better one) when I would go online. Honestly, if I knew it was gonna be so notorious, I probably would’ve picked something more intimidating.

2. Do you get hit by millions of messages, E-mails, Digg requests, etc. the minute that you go online?
Less than you’d think, but mostly when I show up on IM. I’m open to all emails and Digg shouts, as long as they’re not spam.

3. Some might say that you are an on-line celebrity. That brings up another question: why do you think people put so much value in being a celebrity?
Former Photobucket marketer MJ Kim once told me, “Andy Warhol said that in the future everyone will be famous for 15 minutes. Well, when you’re ‘internet famous’, you’re famous to 15 people.” While I certainly don’t consider myself a celebrity (even an ‘internet famous’ one), I think celebrity is significant to some people as a public validation of success.

4. Does being the top Digger something you cherish or is it that big of a deal to you?
I’m proud of the honor, but I never sought out to be top digger. Many people consider Digg to be like a game, where the goal in competition is to try and get the most submissions to the front page, or to have a perfect submission record, or to be the most prolific thread commenter. Digg has never been about that for me. My only goal in submitting to Digg is to find the most interesting sites & articles and expose them to the broadest audience possible. In that respect, there is no goal of completion for me. I’ll keep submitting to Digg as long as there are great stories to submit.

5. Can you single out any one Digg submission or story that will be etched into your memory for the rest of your life?
Oddly enough, the stories that really stand out for me are the ones that I really felt passionately about, but failed to make the front page. The real tragedy of Digg is how many amazing stories are submitted, but never make the front page for one reason or another. I would recommend to any digg user that they take the time to look past the front page and onto the Upcoming page, where the real gems are.

6. Is it easy for you to keep up with all of your social media contacts? Do you use software, a notebook, or memory exercises to keep track of it all?
Keeping track of my social media contacts is actually my weakest point. I seem to be often too overwhelmed to engage in regular communication with my social news contacts. I don’t IM that often, so if you’re not on my friends list, the best way to get my attention is to email me or ‘shout’ to me.

7. What’s the next step for social news? What is it going to evolve to be?
You’re going to see social news become more ubiquitous and more integrated into mainstream media. The walls between the two will eventually break down completely. User commentary will share space on the page with journalist-written articles in The New York Times. CNN video coverage of momentous events will share space with live video streaming from users’ cellphones of the same events. As people realize they can contribute to the collective voice and be heard, the news space will evolve to be richer, more eclectic, and better informed.

8. Pretend the Internet is destroyed overnight. What do you do the next morning?
Focus my free time on my other passion, watching and studying movies. It would probably mean going to Blockbuster instead of Netflix, but what are you gonna do?

9. Do you hope that your social media work will have a legacy? If so, what kind of legacy do you want to be remembered for?
More than any one particular act, I would hope the body of my work would serve to highlight the significance of the social bookmarker. A tremendous amount of time and effort is volunteered by scores of talented people with the knack for uncovering the best content, and it’s very easy to forget that it doesn’t just anonymously appear of the front pages of everyone’s favorite social news sites. Content is always king, of course, but the social bookmarker is the one who delivers it.

10. What one piece of knowledge, advice, or wisdom do you have to share with our readers?
The most often question I’m asked regarding social bookmarking is “what is the best way to get my stories seen?” To which I say two things: Be choosy about what you submit, as you will be judged by your content. And make lots of friends and support each other by promoting each others’ stories. Often this is the only way to insure your story rises above the scores of other submissions.
The other advice I’d offer is not to take it all too seriously. It’s supposed to be fun.

Thanks to Mr BabyMan for sharing his brainwaves!

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Catch the brainwaves with Shea Gunther

Wednesday, February 20th, 2008

Shea GuntherCatch the Brainwaves is our ongoing series of interviews with a variety of folks participating in blogging and social media. I ask them ten questions and they respond with their brilliant answers and insights! Today’s Q&A features the incomparable Shea Gunther, who can be found here, here, here, and here! 

1. How cool is Maine?

Maine is pure awesome. I grew up in neighboring New Hampshire but lived right on the border, so I got a lot of exposure to Maine as a kid. Portland is the hippest little city in the country and is an up and coming destination for entrepreneurs. It wasn’t quite the case even just 10 years ago but the last decade has seen a lot of cool things pour into the city. We have new arts colleges that have pulled in new smart and creative young people as well as the expected bars, restaurants, book stores, and boutiques. Whole Foods just moved in last year. You can drive an hour and be on your snowboard up in the mountains or go 15 minutes to the beach. There’s world class rock climbing just two hours away in New Hampshire and Boston is an equal amount of time down I-95. We have a nice airport and the cost of living is low.

2. If you could live in a different country, which one would it be and why?

I’ve been hearing really good things about Norway, but I’d probably have to go with Canada. (ED:  I did not put that in, Shea wrote it!  :) )I’m pretty lazy when it comes to learning other languages so the fact that I could get away with English there is a plus. They have a lot of water, tons of beautiful wilderness, and haven’t started any disastrous and expensive wars lately.

3. Is the world going to change in January 2009, when the new US president takes office?

Fuck yes. We’ve had an amazingly bad last 8 years and I don’t pull any punches when I label Bush as our Worst President Ever. The guy has messed up this country in so many ways I think it’s pushed us down like a spring ready to explode under the leadership of anyone who isn’t the evil retarded fish frog that George W. Bush is. I’m a Barack man and think he will get this country back on track in every way when he takes office in ’09 including getting us out of the clusterfuck in Iraq.

4. Is it tough to be a US citizen these days, knowing that the US government is extremely unpopular in several different parts of the world?

He’s not my President, I voted against him twice and always thought he was a shifty incompetent of a leader. I hope that people around the world are able to distinguish between Americans and the American government. The American people, for the most part, are downright friendly folk. Our (current) government is a bunch of wackjob corrupt politicos lead by a very dumb man with very bad friends. We’ll get a Democrat in office next year and we’ll start the work of rebuilding our standing in the world.

5. What do you think about the increases in travel restrictions for entering or leaving the US?

I think immigration and travel security laws are reactionary, inefficient, xenophobic, and ignorant as to the realities of the world.

6. Do you think that fuel cell technology will ever hit the mainstream? Should it?

Yes, and yes. It’s good technology and will be an important part of helping us break away from burning a fossil fuel to do everything.

7. What makes a blog good?

The writers. You have to get the mechanics of good blogging down- proper linking and image use, great design, a well coded template, feeds and email subscriptions and such, but it’s the writers that will really capture and grow an audience.

8. Are social media and social news providing more than entertainment value?

Social media and news are connecting people in a way that’s never happened before. When you connect more smart, creative, driven people you are going to get an increase in the cool things those people do. We’re going to see more innovation in business, technology, and the arts because of social media and news.

It will also mean big changes in politics as more people hook up along shared political and social views and flex their power within the parties. If anything could facilitate the creation of a viable third party candidate it’s the net and social media. The Ron Paul phenomenon was just the tip of the iceberg as to what will be possible in the coming decades.

9. Pretend the Internet is destroyed overnight. What do you do the next morning?

Cancel my DSL line and cry. Then I’d go outside and build a tree fort.

10. What one piece of knowledge, advice, or wisdom do you have to share with our readers?

Go after your dreams with everything you have. Failure should be expected and embraced. Learn the lessons of failing and wear your wounds ands scars proudly. Don’t be content with being a sheeple and never ever give up.

Thanks to Shea for sharing his brainwaves!


Catch the brainwaves of SexySEO

Tuesday, February 19th, 2008

 SexySEO

Catch the Brainwaves is our ongoing series of interviews with a variety of folks participating in blogging and social media. I ask them ten questions and they respond with their brilliant answers and insights! Today’s Q&A features the uncanny SexySEO!

1. Why do you use Blogger as your platform instead of a more powerful platform?
It seems you are a bit prejudiced against Blogger, and I have my own prejudices too. ;-) sexyseo.blogspot.com was set up as part of an experiment with an aim to test LZZR‘s theory about Web 2.0 SEO. In his own words “… Web 2.0 SEO isn’t about unique content at all. It’s about social interaction in online communities.” So it wasn’t really a question which platform to use. I decided to use Blogspot as my primary home on the net since it’s one of the oldest blogging platforms with very simple interface and it gets spidered quick (and no wonder, it’s owned by Google, mind you).

2. If you could live in a different country, which one would it be and why?
I think that I know why this Q was asked. ;-) Hm… I would prefer to rephrase this Q and go straight to the point: Where do you live? It’s #4 in my list of top asked questions. It was terribly annoying at first but after some little thought I realised that this wasn’t about “how I can get you in real life?” but rather about “who are you?”, “let me know you better!” I’m quite happy to live online where I could easily interact with all sorts of Internet users within different online communities who are located in all sorts of different countries. No borders there, (except “walled gardens” – I don’t like them), I’m absolutely free to talk about what interests me and the most important I could build my own happy place.

3. You seem to be quite active on Sphinn. What value do you get from Sphinn?
Networking and most importantly the current knowledge of mainstream SEO. Not much more, really with all due respect to Dunny.

4. Do you think that a woman could be successful on the Web if she went by the name RepulsiveSEO and used pictures of an old hag as her avatar?
5. By the same token, do you think a man could be successful on the Web if he went by the name RepulsiveSEO and used an ugly man’s picture as his avatar?

I would join these two Q in one: could you be successful on the Web with ugly avatar and nick? My answer is YES, but it will take a little bit longer and of course it’s a pain. ;-)

6. Do believe in life on other planets? Why or why not?
Yes, I do believe, believe because a thought that it is only on the Earth that life has occurred is too painful for me. :-)

7. What makes a blog good?
I’ll answer not as a SEO but as an ordinary user: it should be at the right place and at the right time ;-) and the most important thing it should be unique in every single detail: visual, verbal, contextual and generate a large amount of positive feedback. I will reveal my little secret – the first page of any blog I read is not the homepage but… “About”. The author(s) is the driving force behind any blog. You have to be pretty cool to attract people to read what you actually write and it’s not easy. It’s personality after all.

8. Are social media and social news providing more than entertainment value?
The real value is defined by user depending on his/her circumstances and intentions. So if you want to be entertained, you will be, even reading stock exchange news.

9. Pretend the Internet is destroyed overnight. What do you do the next morning?
Have my sleep out :-) and after that I’ll just sit down in my thinking chair and think, think, think about the Ideal Web3.0 how it should look like and work. And definitely I’ll try not to loose such a wonderful opportunity to start building a completely new Internet structure from the scratch.

10. What one piece of knowledge, advice, or wisdom do you have to share with our readers?
Because it’s SEO blog and most of readers are SEOs (ED:  it is?  they are?) I would give a small advice: be more sensitive, interested in global problems of the Internet and become an active and influential part of all the newest trends. You, my dearest SEOs are smart enough to have your own vision of how the Internet will look in the third millennium. Make your opinion counted!

Thanks to SexySEO for sharing her brainwaves!


Posting at the new Fast Company.com

Monday, February 18th, 2008

While I was cursing my former hosting company with silent venom last week, I wandered over to the revitalised Fast Company magazine website and created a blog there because I had something to say about technology.

The post wouldn’t have really fit in with this blog, so odds the difference, but it’s an interesting new platform to speak from.

I’m sharing the link to that post because it’s about a topic that I feel a number of people are forgetting about in this day and age:  tools vs. solutions.  Tools can lead us to cool results, but sometimes we take tools and go sprinting after problems with the intent of fixing them with the tool, regardless of whether or not it’s the right tool.

Sometimes I think we need to spend more time defining the problem or opportunity.  Once we know what that is, then we should go looking for the appropriate solution. 

What do you think?   Do we sometimes “get the cart before the horse” instead of determining what the real problem is?


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